6 things to do before joining a MLM and throwing away your money.

As I sit here thinking about how and why I got started in this business, it is not as nearly intriguing as the skepticism I have been met with by some of my closest friends. It is hilarious how some of the world is still stuck in the dark ages when it comes to Multi-Level Marketing.

While researching the concept that I am currently a part of I read so many different blogs about how it is a scheme, it is a fraud. Your asking poor people to sign up for vacation packages when they are concerned about their bills etc.

There is so much to be said about that mindset but that is also something I coach(Mindset Change). As a Life Coach, I coach people out of their own way in order for them to perform at their highest level in whatever area of their life they think is necessary. So I understand the reason people struggle to understand MLM’s. There are bad ones but not all of them are.

If your thinking about becoming a part of this type of business then you must prepare yourself mentally for the verbal beat down your gonna take from friends, family and even people you do not know. Understand that they are your biggest critics and skeptics for a reason they care about you and they don’t want you to be tricked into something that is not going to work or that is illegal and could get you some jail time.

So here are 6 things that you can do to avoid being scammed and to land into the best opportunity for you to earn some cash and possibly even become one of the top earners within your company.

1. Research companies that have a product that interests you.

What product are you comfortable promoting. World Ventures was easy for me because of the simple fact that it promotes a lifestyle of fun and adventure at discounted prices. I love to travel but I also want my family and friends to be able to go with me so what better way to tackle two issues that stop my family from enjoying life and experiencing beautiful places. Another reason was being able to give back through their voluntourism program.  So check into all MLM areas of the business and be sure that there is a product being paid for and that you are OK with the company and what they stand for.

2. Be Knowledgeable of what stage the company is in your interested in working with.

There are 4 different phases of growth that tell you multiple things about the company you may join. The phases are Formulation, Concentration, Momentum and Stability. Do your research to determine what seems to be the best phase to enter in a company for you.

3. Talk to people who are currently in Network Marketing and are familiar with the companies you narrowed your choices down to.

Even if you personally don’t know anyone there is bound to be someone out there who can help you figure out how to make your final decision. Don’t be afraid to ask them questions and discuss your feelings and concerns about becoming your own boss in this industry.

4. Attend recruiting parties and speak to your possible upline team and be sure there are success stories that resonate with you and that you can see. Ask questions but most of all be sure that your upline will work with you to help get you going and to be sure that they are helping you reach your goals within this company.

5. Be clear of your goals.

Know what it is you want to achieve before you join. Is it just extra income or are you looking to become extremely rich. Knowing your goals will help you decide if a company is right to join or not.

6. Lastly, prepare yourself mentally to deal with the no’s and negativity from friends and family. If you have completed the five things above then your confidence level about your choice should withstand the verbal beat downs you will receive. That is at least until you can show them the money!

Be Blessed and Prosperous!!!

Mind Over Matter. Master Your Mind. Master Your Life.

This is an amazing blog post! So true to my path and purpose! Thank You Trueheart Writes!

Trueheart Writes

I am finding that more and more people are struggling with negative, pessimistic, hindering thoughts that keep them from living God’s best life for themselves.  In this month’s article, I will share some of the points I mentioned during my May Motivational Coaching Call. I believe that if you are struggling with self-defeating thoughts or have more negative than positive thoughts, then this message is for you.

The first thing you must know is… EVERYTHING starts in the mind.  Where you are today is a direct result of the thoughts you have been thinking.  The very thoughts you had one, two, or three years ago have brought you to this very place.  If you want to change the direction of your life, you MUST change the direction of your thoughts.

Now if everything starts in the mind with a thought or idea, the next question is …

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That Moment When…

That moment you realize that you are part of the problem and not a part of the solution.

This is not for everyone, this is for the prejudice human being who does not even realize that they are. This is for young lady that calls herself a bad female dog(b***h) or for the young man who calls he and his friends my N***a.

This is for the people that decide in order to get by I have to take it from someone else or for the people who decide that their race is supreme over everyone else’s and decides to mistreat people because of their beliefs.

This is for the person  who would rather take from the system instead of working their way out of it. This is for judicial system that does not work effectively. This is for the part of the government that does not focus on all people but a certain group of people for their own personal gain.

This is for the person who is waiting for a handout instead of fighting daily to get through your struggles. This is for the person who whines and complains but takes no action.

This is for that judgemental person that sits high and looks low but does not attempt to help those who truly need it.
This is for the people that will mistreat or disrespect a person because of who they love.

This is for the dad or mom who has no plans to help raise their children or be a positive influence in their lives. This is for the woman who allows herself to be treated disrespectfully for the sake of LOVE?! This is for the people who have taken from this world since day one and have no plan to give back.

This is for you! You drain this world of all of it’s potential, you take and you don’t give, you blame everyone else for your struggles, you give yourself excuses as to why you can’t do something. You bring negative into your own life and expect someone else to take it out.

You give someone your everything without respect for yourself and expect them to love, respect and appreciate you.

I could go on about who this is for but let me say this. This is not for the people who strive to be a productive citizen and create space for equality. This is not for the non judgemental person or people living out their purpose. This is not for the positive people who give more then they take and strive to be a better them daily, this is not for you.

WAKE UP! This is that moment when you realize the reason you are so unhappy. The reason you can’t move forward in life. The reason people treat you badly, the reason bad things happen to you.

This is that moment you realize you brought this on yourself. The moment you realize you are part of the problem and not a part of the solution.

My rant!


Tyrese Gibson wrote “validation is a man’s silent killer”. He goes on to inform us it is why so many men are in jail or dead. Because their behavior is encouraged by what someone else says is cool or manly. Well, I read that and I thought I can see that. If you could get an honest answer from most men who have done something they may now regret they will probably say “if I didn’t do it then I would have been a punk or worse.

I will say that validation is a human beings silent killer. It does not matter who or what you are. Too many of us need validation to live. Ok so here is a chance to check yourself. There are two type of people in the world. There are the people that before they do something you think about it, depending on what it is you weigh the pros and cons, then you do it or you don’t. You came to that conclusion on your own. Then you find out the outcome of your actions. Good or bad you accept it no need to get approval from anyone. Then there are some who need to seriously ask someone else before they make a decision. Then they have to know that it is a good decision before they do it. Then no matter the results they need to know from someone else that they approve or not. Which one are you?

So let’s think about the word validation for a minute. Where in your life can you think of an instance or instances that you needed to prove something to someone other than yourself? Think about it, most of us have at some point wanted someone else’s approval on something so bad because then they would accept you for who you are and you could prove to them that who you are is not so bad.

For a very long time I needed that validation. One of the areas in my life that stand out for me when I think about validation and the stress it caused me is my previous  relationships.

I have asked myself many times why did I stay knowing the relationship was not good for me. Why did I feel the need to take all of the things I know I couldn’t accept in order to stay in a relationship?

Well because I checked myself, one of my realizations were that I needed validation from the world but mainly my family and friends. I needed to prove to the world that a woman loving a woman is not a bad thing. It is not just about intimacy, we can be in long term,  fulfilling relationships and be happy.  I needed my family to be OK with who I am and who I loved.

I needed to show them that it was OK because look at me, I am happy and we have been together for a long time and being in love with the same sex is not so bad.

I assume that maybe I felt the need to prove this to people and know that they were OK with it so I could be OK with it.

I was lost thinking that I needed that validation so I could be happy and that some how this would make my life better. Instead this type of thinking caused me to pursue a certain type of person, accept a whole lot more than I should and have more gray hair than I should right now.
Pursuing validation from the outside world could literally cause you so much harmful stress on the inside.

I was so unhappy trying to validate me through someone else’s lenses. Now I am able to validate me and that is all that matters. I accept who I am and love who I am becoming.

Some where along the way we have become a society of approval seekers. Not from ourselves but from the outside and what good is that? Look within yourself figure out who you are and your purpose. Follow the path that guides you to your destiny. Life becomes so much easier, your choices and decisions are based on where you need to go, not where someone else feels you need to be. 

Check Yourself!

How often do you check yourself?

When things don’t go the way we hoped we tend to blame everyone else. Even though there may be blame to be placed elsewhere how often do you check yourself to see what you could have done differently?

My first adult relationship was a really tough one. I mean not only was I young I was also not capable of understanding that you can love someone but not give yourself away over and over again to someone who does not give you the same energy back. I stayed because I thought love was supposed to be tough but I never asked myself, “until when”?

You are probably asking what does this have to do with me checking myself? Well if I had understood then what I know now I would have known to ask myself the right questions. For example, when someone has done the same hurtful things to you over and over ask yourself am I being fair to myself? Is this showing love to myself or am I hurting myself even more then they are? Knowing what hurts you yet allowing yourself to stay in that relationship.
Is that fair to you?
How much can you give someone that does not replace all the energy you are giving them? When your finally done with the relationship you have nothing but negative things to say about the other person but in reality this is a really good moment to check yourself.

As you reflect on the pain you have been through you should ask yourself why did I give them the power to take all of me and give nothing back? Why do I do that in all of my relationships? Don’t let yourself off the hook by saying I am a nice person and people always take that for granted, or I give all of me and I am never appreciated.

Try asking these question did I give too fast? Did I give too much of me too fast? Did I see signs that I ignored because I just wanted to be in a relationship? Try asking questions like that and answering honestly. Check yourself!

Understand that when you answer the secret is to not do the same thing in the next relationship but to check yourself. It will be a challenge. You have to know it is not easy to take a good look at yourself and criticize your own behavior but if your goal is to not continuously go through life having to always bounce back then start checking yourself at work, at home, with friends, lovers and in your everyday actions.

You shouldn’t ask someone else to be honest with you if you don’t do it to yourself. Check yourself not to beat up on yourself but to build yourself up to a place where you understand that you don’t deserve to be hurt and unhappy but you do deserve the exact opposite.

Give yourself permission to love you as you are but set standards and continuously check yourself to be sure that you are living up to them as well as someone you may allow into your life.

Enjoy the growth that comes with this practice!

Hello World!

My name is Denise and I am 40 years old. I am a Licensed Social Worker aspiring to become a Life Coach. For as long as I can remember I have always wanted to start a blog. I had no idea what it would be about or the things that I would focus on but I knew I wanted to write.

There are many things that I am passionate about and I don’t necessarily know if I will focus on one or ten things. I do know that this is scary and I have fears of being judged but I also welcome it because I don’t pretend to be perfect so don’t expect perfect posts just my honesty and personal journey as well as some simple self help posts. I will give you my honest thoughts. What I feel in my heart and soul to be helpful and some things that I may learn along my journey to become a Life Coach. I am also working at becoming a healthier me so some of this will be posted as well.

My intentions are to speak to the people who need the information in my posts. I don’t anticipate that everyone will always agree with me but I won’t lie to you either. I know someone, somewhere will benefit from my honesty and that is who this blog is for. So if it does not pertain to you or you don’t like it I understand and I will not be discouraged by that. I will always post for the ones who need to hear my message. Thank you and I will be posting something real soon so look for it. Oh and I am always open to new ideas about posts so please feel free to ask away!

Happy Blogging!